T Nigerian man living in the UK has reportedly backed out of a marriage proposal due to an expensive and demanding traditional bride price list presented by the woman’s family.
The story, shared by social media user Princess Adeola on her X handle, highlights the man’s emotional turmoil and has stirred debates around cultural practices that might discourage potential suitors.
The bride price list, intended to honour the bride’s family, included various items such as drinks, livestock, clothing, and cash gifts for extended family members, amounting to approximately N3.5 million.
VANGUARD reports that despite being deeply committed to the woman and willing to take her abroad and fund her education, the man was heartbroken to discover that she supported her family’s demands, citing Nigeria’s economic challenges.
The man, who had been navigating the complexities of a long-distance relationship, had earlier sought advice from a social media influencer on his plans to marry her.
In his frustration, he described the demands as akin to “selling a child” and questioned how a marriage could begin under such financial strain.
He expressed that his intentions to invest in the woman’s future abroad should have been valued more than monetary expectations.
Princess Adeola wrote, “There’s this guy on my platform who met a lady here in Nigeria while he’s in the UK. Despite the challenges of a long-distance relationship, he was committed to her.
“He even sought my advice, and I encouraged him to go for it. But yesterday, he reached out to me, distraught, after receiving a bride price list from her family totaling N3.5 million.”
“We had a lengthy and emotional discussion. His pain wasn’t just the list itself but the fact that the woman he loves supports her family’s demands, claiming everything is expensive in Nigeria.”
“Why should anyone demand such an outrageous amount just for marriage? Doesn’t that set the tone for the man to treat her like he ‘bought’ her? It’s a shame, and I hope women learn from this. This man had genuine plans to take her abroad and pay for her education. Now, because of greed, the family has lost a good man.
“He told me yesterday he’s no longer interested and plans to block her. He said he would cry, heal, and move on with his life. I feel bad for the lady—if only she had a more understanding family and stood up for herself. She’s about to lose a good man without even knowing it.”
